Healing Diary Series #3 reflection

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This post isn’t a common ‘self-reflection on your mistake’ post. It is meant for you to reflect whether you’ve lived an extraordinary life. 

Acquaint yourself with the term “little-bit-more obsession.” There are times in our lives when we have everything -- good health, stable relationships, proper mindsets -- yet we still feel unsatisfied and want more. If it sounds familiar to you, you need some time to reassess yourself. Living an extraordinary life has nothing to do with the shellow metrics -- money, fame, accomplishments -- it’s these defining qualities. 

 You’ve made or kept a character commitment.

When you find your true passion, you commit to it. A pledge you make to yourself to do something every day, forever, that defines your character and individuality — character commitment. No matter the outward success, if you’ve kept your pledge and committed into doing so, you’re living a quite extraordinary life.  

You’re slightly embarrassed at your past.

Think back to your life. Are you embarrassed by any of it? It can be something you’ve done, words you’ve said, or beliefs you’ve held. If you’re proud of your past than your present, then you haven’t recognized your mistakes, you haven’t gotten better at what you do, you haven’t grown as an individual. If you look back and cringe at your immaturity, then you’ve grown up, matured, and bettered yourself. 

You’re not toxic.

When it comes to interpersonal relationships, we often fall into the gray area in between infecting others with toxic negativity and injecting endless joy into interaction. We’re all humans. We all have bad days when we don’t give a sh*t about the world or the people in it. 

But if you can make others feel joy, inspired, or grateful some of the time while remaining neutral the rest of the time, you’re quite extraordinary.

You take responsibility for most of your mistakes.

We all admire people who own up to their mistakes and do their best to clean up whatever mess lingers in their wake.I’ve screwed up many times, on many occasions. As I’ve matured, I’ve become more attuned to the impact my mistakes have on others and myself. But it’s the act of taking responsibility that is the hardest part. There’s no shame in screwing up; it’s how you respond to mistakes that define you. 

You explore your curiosities.

All of us harbor curiosities that yearn for exploration. If you’ve dedicated a portion of your life to explore your curiosities, then congratulations, you’re quite well-lived.

You’ve given up on conditional happiness.

There’s a communal idea that to achieve happiness, you must meet specific outcomes in life. The notion of conditional happiness is the shortest path to misery. You will experience the disappointment that stems from valuing your worth based on life outcomes. Accept the fact that contentment does not depend on shallow metrics and you will be content :)